Can you scare yourself into the life you want?

Deep Stare

Go on…what’s stopping you? Go ahead and ask your boss for a raise. Speak up the next time you disagree with someone. Call that person you met in the elevator. Start that business you’ve been talking about for a decade. Audition for the part. You fill in the blank.

Are you afraid? If so, congratulations! You’ve just identified the pool you need to dive into to reclaim your life. If you pass, however, claiming the water’s too cold or you just don’t feel like swimming today, the fear wins. And you lose.

“Fear stands between you and your ability to go anywhere you like, do anything you want, and meet anyone you please,” writes Rhonda Britten, author of several books on fear, including Fearless Living and Fearless Loving.

When we face fear, when we act in spite of the fear, we grow. As we expand, we push through our perceived limitations, out far beyond our comfort zone. We embrace freedom and become unstoppable forces in our own lives. And it feels sooooo good!

Making Fear Our Ally

As Britten notes, fear is the gatekeeper of our comfort zone. But we can make it our ally by using fear as a compass needle. Wherever the needle points—whenever fear raises its head and says, “Gulp!”—that’s where we need to go.

“Instead of causing you to shy away from situations that could result in the sting of failure,” Britten writes, “the fear gives you the impetus to take on new challenges.”

Britten’s books and Susan Jeffers’ classic Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, both offer plentiful suggestions for ways to get at and work through the fears that keep our lives limited.

Doing Scary Things Intentionally

Consider making it a practice to do at least one scary thing every day. Doing so begins to exercise a muscle that’s been atrophied for too long. Each and every time you take action rather than avoid you strengthen the muscle, building self-confidence, self-reliance and self-trust. You begin to say “I can” more often than “I can’t.”

Interestingly, taking calculated risks of a physical nature can often produce noticeable growth in our ability to confront fear in the emotional realm. For example, to learn more about his fear of going into business for himself, Michael rappelled down a cliff, something that had terrified him.

Michael discovered that fear is most present in the thinking about the event—not in the actual doing. When he thought of the future, a host of “what ifs” crowded his brain and kept him worried. But when he was actually rappelling, he was 100% focused on his task. Only when he let his thoughts wander from the present moment did the fear intrude.

Now, when he finds himself fretting about his future as a self-employed person, Michael focuses his complete attention on the task at hand and not the “what ifs.”

As a Life Transition Strategist, I have helped many people work through their fears, and get clarity and direction in Reawakening, Refining, and Redesigning their life to create the life of their dreams.

If you or someone you care about is ready to face their fear and overcome

what has been keeping them stuck

NOW is the Time to jump in to the pool and reclaim your life!

As Ralph Waldo Emerson wisely remarked: “Do the thing you fear, and the death of fear is certain.”

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